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Then again, actually it is you. I can’t handle your constant demands on me any more; it’s stressing me out when you’re staring at me with that hurt look if I don’t show up exactly at the moment that you expect me to; the negativity that hangs around you is dragging me down. And the time – you want so much time from me!
So I think we need to take a step back, evaluate our relationship. I don’t mean exactly break up, but, you know, maybe just be friends for a while.
Take care of yourself, Internet, eh? I gotta go now, I’ve got stuff to do.
I know I’ve been really quiet on here lately – well, it’s because life happens. Steve and I are on the road at the moment, and will be for most of the rest of the summer, visiting friends and family, and doing a little bit of sightseeing – no, sorry, research! – on the side.
But I thought I’d let you know that writing is still happening, in a manner of speaking. Some of it is just thinking about it (long drives in the car are perfect for that); some is editing of previous work; some is writing in short bursts in a little notebook. The latter is a new one for me – I do all my “serious” writing on the computer. But maybe this very “being not serious” that writing longhand in a tiny book entails is what I need at the moment.
So, writing still goes on. I’ll let you know when there’s something to let you know. Meanwhile, I’m keeping my eyes and ears open for new experiences, scenes and ideas – writing material is everywhere.
Now Steve’s got his backpack on and he’s ready to go for another day, so I better get on with it.
Life, the Universe, and News From The Writing Trenches. Happy Summer!
PS: If you do Twitter or Instagram, you can follow me at @amoffenwanger – I’ll be posting the odd picture there.
I was going to post this collage yesterday for Wordless Wednesday. Overwhelmed with too many projects, with too much to do.
But then I remembered something I recently saw scrolling past online:
People compete over being busy; it’s about showing status. “If you’re busy, you’re important. You’re leading a full and worthy life.”
(Brigid Schulte, in this article)
Gah. Is that what I’m trying to say here? Am I trying to show off how terribly busy, therefore terribly important, I am?
Actually, no. That wasn’t my intention when I took those photos. It was really more by way of an excuse: See, because I’m already so very busy and so very overwhelmed, that’s why I still haven’t finished Star Bright. Why I haven’t read all of your blogs and left profound comments. Why I don’t post more fascinating articles on fairy tales, or Jane Austen, or How To Be a Better Writer and Human Being In General. Why my front (and back) yard is a mess (never mind the inside of my house). Why I haven’t had you over for dinner, or sent you birthday cards on time. Why, in short, I haven’t done all those things that I think I ought to be doing, that I think all of you are doing (I have proof, from your blogs and Facebook and Twitter and all), that would make me an accomplished and worthy person.
It was a plea for validation: Look, I really am busy! I’m not a slacker, honest I’m not!
Brigid Schulte again:
Psychologists treat burned-out clients who can’t shake the notion that the busier you are, the faster you work; the more you multi-task, the more you are considered competent, smart, successful. It’s the Protestant work ethic in overdrive.
Being overwhelmed as a status symbol – as a sign that I am, indeed, a worthwhile person, as valuable as you.
That is not how I want to live my life. And not the image I want to project outward here.
But what, then, is the way to live?
Maybe a small first step is to become aware of this attitude, and consciously reject it. Slow down. Slow food, slow life, slow writing. Slow gardening? Staying put instead of running.
Maybe it’s a start.
Life, the Universe, and Being Overwhelmed. Will you join me in rejecting that status symbol?
Yes, we got back from Germany. Yes, I’m going to tell you all about it when I get my photos downloaded and organised. However, Real Life is happening again with a vengeance and demanding my attention, so I hope you’ll forgive me when I leave you hanging for just a bit longer.
Meanwhile, to tide you over, here’s a picture of an Air Canada plane taking off from the Calgary airport.
Apologies for the blogging silence over the last couple of weeks. I’ve been busy with real life – house guests, to be precise – and, well, real life takes precedence over cyber effusions. Or at least it ought to.
And Steve hasn’t stepped up to the plate with a blog post either; his excuse is that it’s hard to type when you’ve only got paws with no fingers. Whatever, says I.
But just so you don’t get bored while you wait for our next effusion of erudition, here’s a picture from yesterday’s outing: a historic railway line that has been converted into a hiking/biking trail. This is one of the trestle bridges.
Life, the Universe, and the Precedence of Real Life. See you next week!